A Little Relieved? How dare I!

WARNING: THIS POST IS GOING TO OFFEND YOU, SO DON'T READ IF YOU DON'T WANT TO BE OFFENDED!

So I get the diagnosis and honestly felt a little relieved. When you spend all five years of your sons life thinking that something is off and then someone tells you why and that its not all your fault, relief is bound to happen. Yes I'm still concerned and feel ignorant to ADHD, but for one second I felt relieved. Then I posted this on Facebook:

“It's official. Rocco has been diagnosed with ADHD. Mixed emotions for me. Class next week to look at all treatment options & then go from there.”

Yes I know I was opening a can of worms, but didn't yet know how I'd feel about the comments I got. I was a little upset by them. I didn't respond on FB at all because it was my own fault posting the status update, but I don't think I specifically asked for everyone's opinion either. Here the comments are and under each one I'll respond 100% honestly how I felt after reading them:

“Don't believe it...they tried to diagnose my brother when he was little and he came out just fine. I personally don't believe in it but that is just me"
ME: Relief gone! Am I stupid to believe in ADHD? Am I accepting the diagnosis because I need something to be wrong with him? Something has to be wrong so I'm not the worst mom ever!

“I agree with above. Seems like they diagnose too many kids with that. But I support any decision you've gotta make. And we love Roc regardless.”
ME: Is this just something they diagnosis kids with as an easy fix? Thanks for being supportive at least.

“ask about the diet, it worked for myself and my brothers, no sugars, no preprocessed food, no red dye. to this day I drink lots of caffine and it actually calms me down. Many kids with add/adhd tend to be very smart and gifted. look at the bright side of things. hang in there”
ME: Well first off I never thought of Rocco as retarded? Wait stop being defensive Ren! She is trying to be nice. Is it really possible to control with diet only? Or is that philosophy the same as the moms that believe vaccines cause autisum? To this I strongly disagree, but what does that have to do with ADHD?

“I think you should focus on the positive side too. I think knowing this will help him not hurt him. I love you both :)”
ME: I thought this would help him not hurt him but why did you think I was only thinking negative?

“sending you hugs Ren!! Xxoo”
ME: Thanks for the love and not putting your two cents in :-) (Ok I admit I was overreacting a little bit to the other comments)

“honestly we all have ADD. its so common.. doctors just say that crap cuz they have to have an answer for everything.. dont worry about it so much”
ME: Again, don't think ADHD is a real treatable disease? It's kind of like saying, "Oh he's just a boy!

“Don't worry, he'll grow out of it.”
ME: Fuck you. Really I mean, this feeling like something is wrong with your son is not a big deal and just forget about it. (DISCLAIMER: I love this person and know that she meant nothing but kindness, but I still had that reaction)

“Hmmmmmm. Like I mentioned before the school psychologist from Hirsch told me they usually diagnose it later (unless I'm mistaken) so it could be inaccurate. Either way its hard to decide what's best for your child so go with your gut!! Rocco is a great little boy and is going to be just fine, he already is!!”
ME: Crap is it just me that wants a diagnosis? I'm I pushing this too soon? Do I just SUCK as a MOM? Rocco is a great little boy, but why is it then that no one in his extended family ever really offer to spend one on one time with him? And if he's fine, then why as his mother do I think something is off? Am I overreacting?

“Knowledge is power, so the more you learn the better he'll be. Your very resourcefull, he will be fine.”
ME: Agreed. Thanks.

“Its not a bad thing! Give him a big kiss for me!!”
ME: It's not bad? I'm considering giving my kid crack and that is not a bad thing? Somehow I don't think a kiss is going to fix anything, since I kiss him all the time, but I'll give him one from you.

“no worries ,everything it will be ok,I heard that Einstein had it.So he had crazy hair so what?Don't worry so much.Hugs”
ME: I know you are trying to be sweet and supportive. Thanks. Telling a mom not to worry though is like telling a bear not to shit in the woods.

I was upset that night. I know that people were just being nice and that my fear of the unknown was just playing me. So I just shrugged it off and started my research...